Tarde o temprano, todo es mínima.

"Worry often gives a small thing a big shadow."
-Proverb

Fourth Lesson: Sooner or later, everything is minute.

The other side to lesson number four? DON'T WORRY!

So, this lesson is a good one.  A really, really good one.  In creating this title, I really enjoyed the word minute.  The word meaning small, not the count of time.  The spanish word it gave me is "mínima" which can also mean "minimal".  Honestly? I couldn't have picked a better word.

This lesson is all about a specific time we have all faced. Think about the time you got into a disagreement with a friend about a boy in middle school, or the time in high school when you may have lied about leaving class early, or in college, when your roommate wanted the side of the room with the window when all of your stuff is all ready moved in.  If you are anything like me, you freaked, right?  These are all examples of things that are so minimal, or minute.

At the time of each of these situations like I said, I freaked.  I thought, obviously, this is it. This is going to ruin my entire life.  Granted, every next day after each of these events, I have gotten up the next day with only a lesson learned (and the need for an eggo waffle).

Don't get me wrong.  There are big things in life that will have a huge impact on you and that will effect you.  However, we cannot spend our time worrying about the things we have no hope in changing or the minute things and the minimal situations we find ourselves in.  Lesson of the day? When the situation arises, be innovative.  Lose the worry, create a happier attitude and make a solution that will blow everyone out of the water!

Story time of real life examples I feel are the BIGGEST necessity.  Ya know, to keep it fresh?

My roommate,  Hannah, and I barely knew each other when we came to college.  When met through a mutual friend.  I was excited though, to be sharing my college experience with someone I didn't know.  I moved in a few days before Hannah because her family goes on yearly cruises when the move-in date is. When we moved in, I automatically put my things on the side with the window because I wanted it.  Honestly, it didn't even cross my mind to ask until a girl from across the hall asked if we fought about the window side.  I told her no, because I didn't ask and that, my friends, is when the panic struck.  How could I have been so rude to not even ask if that was okay?  Immediately, I text Hannah and asked if she wanted a window side. Well, if you know anything about ships and crusises, you know there is virtually no cell service.  That being said, Hannah couldn't reply to my text for the next four days.  I was literally in torture about this decision I had made without her until I got her text that said, "Oh, I don't care either way!" PHEW! Thank the Lord on that one.  My panic and worry for four non-stop days did nothing for me besides make me weird and unsettled.  Hannah and I are probably the best roommates you could ever choose to live in one tiny room, but I don't mind.  I had the window last year, she has it this year and we are still the best roommates ever.

Hann and I at BINGO during a Snow Day in our dorm. LOVE LOVE LOVE my roomie.

Está bien, a no estar bien todo el tiempo.

"We enjoy warmth because we have been cold. We appreciate light because we have been in darkness. By the same token, we can experience joy because we have known sadness."
-David Weatherford

Third Lesson: It's All Right, to Not be All Right, All the Time.

Lesson number three, so long in the making. 

Growing up, I was an incredibly emotional kid.  Since about the age of 14, I have lost that. I am still emotional but only about weird things like RomCom's and any Nicholas Sparks book I read.  I hardly get upset ab0ut real life stuff like money, time, bills, hard times, etc. 

That being said, I couldn't have learned this lesson myself. It took the help of a very special girl I know. I am keeping her name disclosed so when I refer to her, I will say Janine.

I was at a church camp a week ago, and we are broken into small groups called, "Family Groups" I was a sponsor and Janine was in my group, letting us become close friends and also allowing me to be a leader to her.

At the very end of the week, Janine had revealed to me a problem she had just learned about in her family.  This was a problem she had blocked from her memory and had only learned about because she read about it on court papers. 

As a child, Janine was beaten severly.

The sad thing was that Janine had been having nightmares about her father, a man she hardly ever knew, everyday for four years and never knew why until she found out by reading about it. It completely broke me.

After Janine told me about it, we went to find another group leader because being a child myself, I didn't know how to handle it.  I have learned growing up, that grown-ups often aren't sure of the right approach but sometimes they just guess, and sometimes it works. I think this is what happened here when we went to grab one of God's greatest women, my friend Andi.

As the night went on, Janine had induced herself into a panic attack and almost passed out. 
Her cousin told us that right after she found the paperwork that the exact same thing happened with passing out spells.

This is the part of the story where my lesson hit me right in the face. Not only will things get bad enough to make you ill, they can make you have symptoms that are beyond your control and ability to fix.

We cannot fix everything, by ourselves. We cannot be all right, all the time.

A hard lesson to be learned, but one definitely for the taking. If you feel as though you are bottling something up, tell someone. While it made me a nervous wreck when Janine told me what had happened, I am so glad and so blessed that she did. I honestly don't know what would have happened if she would have kept it all in. Life is rough, let it out.

Yes, I know this is cheesey, but really. One of my dreams is to have a project like this happen anywhere with my involvement. One of my favorite videos.. well.. let's say EVER! Enjoy, and remember to let it out!